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September’s Focus: Transition Time



Whether it’s pre-, elementary-, middle-, high-school or even (gulp!) college, the start of school is exciting for some, terrifying for others, and a mixture of the two for most.  Join us this month as we discuss transition tips, saturated schedules, homework habits, and fall frames of mind.


Successful scheduling

Wednesday September 16th

12 – 1:30 pm  ***A light lunch will be served

Weston Public Library Community Room


Homework, sports, music, art, dance, theater, clubs, karate, playdates, after-school jobs, SAT/ACT prep, chores…. Activities abound in Fairfield County and many children and parents struggle to balance school, extracurricular interests, family schedules, and budgets.  Learn how to manage potentially conflicting styles and schedules, and how to help children establish effective routines.



Motivation and mindset

Tuesday September 29th

7 – 8:30 pm  ***A light dinner with be served

Weston Public Library Community Room


Do you think intelligence and success are determined by our genetics, innate assets, hard work, or our ability to handle mistakes and failures?  Mindset and motivation are influential and can promote and prevent children from overcoming challenges.  Explore the messages we send about effort and outcome, and how to help children set goals, manage expectations, and rebound from blunders. 


Workshops are open to all parents and caregivers and there is no fee to attend.

Click here to RSVP for any of the upcoming sessions





To view the handout Michelle shared at Scheduling Success session click here


This short blog by a professional organizer includes some helpful tips for managing kids activity schedules



Another great list of helpful tips and tools for enhancing scheduling sanity



The NY Times has a nice short article that highlights perspectives of many psychologists of the risks and rewards of activities for children.



Josh Levs wrote a good piece for CNN about reconciling his own conflicted notions of what kids should and shouldn’t do



And there has been a lot of debate about children and sports – for some interesting viewpoints check out highlights from a panel of sports psychologists at http://www.niutoday.info/2015/02/09/sports-psychologists-were-starting-kids-too-young/ as well as this question and answer session with Dr. Dan Gould, the Director of the Institute for the Study of Youth Sports at Michigan State University http://onlyagame.wbur.org/2015/02/28/lebron-james-son-recruit-gould


Mike Matheny played for four different teams during his thirteen years in the major leagues and was chosen to manage the St. Louis Cardinals even though he had no experience.  Mike was asked to coach a youth baseball team and wrote a series of conditions he demanded before agreeing to be with the team which became known as the “Matheny Manifesto.”   You can read the manifesto at http://mikematheny.com/sites/default/files/docs/MathenyManifesto.pdf or get his book, The Matheny Manifesto: A Young Manager's Old-School Views on Success in Sports and Life Hardcover, which is a great fun read. 


To view the handout Michelle shared at the Motivation & Mindset session click here

Carol Dweck is a well known psychologist whose research focuses on why people succeed and how to foster success; she popularized the notions of “fixed” and “growth” mindset.  Her book “Mindset” is a good read and the associated website has a lot of helpful information, including a quiz you can take to assess your own mindset and tools to help shift from a fixed to a growth Click here to check it out

A recent edition of Education Week featured a commentary by Carol about how the public has interpreted her notions which is a worthwhile read; it also offers a few great tips on what and what not to say to children.  Click here to view it

Several years ago, New York Magazine did a great story on how NOT to talk to your kids that you can view by clicking here  

A while back I wrote a blog about procrastinating that may be a helpful reminder about when we need to warm up our brains; check it out by clicking here